It’s Tough To Be a Guy By Dalia Acosta

These men’s lives are defined by “latent competition, the need to cheat on their partners, to be sexual supermen, and they end up in hiding when they encounter problems with their sexual performance or their prostates. They are slaves to an imaginary power and have become very vulnerable because they are neither as hardened or as strong as they think; they are human beings,” said Vila.

In this Caribbean island nation of 11.2 million people, the divorce rate skyrocketed from 0.41 per 1,000 inhabitants in 1955 to 3.2 per 1,000 in 2006, according to a study by researcher María Elena Benítez from the University of Havana Centre of Demographics.

Different studies have concurred that despite living in patriarchal societies where they wield power over their wives and families, the socially instilled model of masculinity places men in a situation of vulnerability, largely due to general disregard for their health and constant exposure to the threat of violence.

In general, women are much better prepared to deal with retirement and widowhood, for example. Throughout their lives, they establish bonds of friendship that are deeper, more lasting and qualitatively different from those of men, and in the event of being left homeless or alone, they are much more likely to be taken in by relatives or friends.

Women, who are also viewed through the lens of prevailing gender stereotypes and the social functions they have fulfilled throughout their lives, are taken in as a potential source of help with housework and childcare. But men, even if they contribute money to the household, tend to be viewed as an extra burden, someone who has to be taken care of, and in extreme cases, a genuine nuisance.

“Men succumb to loneliness, to depression. They don’t know what to do with their lives. Ultimately, their masculinity leads to total dependence on women, to uselessness, to a painful process,” Julio César González Pagés, a professor at the University of Havana and coordinator of the Ibero-American Masculinity Network, told IPS.

Although there are no official statistics on people living in situations of indigence or extreme poverty in Cuba, a research study by social anthropologist Juana María Jiménez found that the majority are elderly and predominantly male, with no children or other close relatives and at high risk of alcoholism.

In different social conditions, men also represent the majority of people living on the street. A case study conducted in the Spanish city of Barcelona found that 89.5 percent of homeless people there were male. Unlike Cuba, however, 62 percent were immigrants.

As of late 2007, there were 184 million people living in poverty in Latin America and the Caribbean, including 68 million in extreme poverty, according to Social Panorama of Latin America 2008, the annual report published by the Economic Commission for Latin America and the Caribbean (ECLAC).

A total of 120 million people had no housing or lived in shantytowns or slums.

Meanwhile, the latest national progress report on the Millennium Development Goals (MDGs) submitted by Cuba recognises that despite the country’s ample guarantees of social security and assistance, a number of vulnerability factors have been identified, which include aging, low income and lack of housing or adequate facilities.

Men with women’s souls

“I’m poor, I’m on the street, but I’m not an indigent. I have to keep myself neat and clean,” declares Martínez in a sequence of the documentary that alternates with other images of men: an almost naked man sleeping on a sidewalk, another holding a bottle of rum, a third “diving” in a trash container, and a group of others killing time by playing dominoes.

“Doesn’t a drowning man need a helping hand?” asked Vila, as she showed IPS a series of photographs of a Cuban man pulled from the sea too late. “Everyone saw him drowning but no one made a move to help him. What would have happened if it was a woman who was drowning?” she wondered aloud.

Confident in her identity as a “woman-man” since she came to accept the masculine side in her, Vila believes that “if everyone understood that these two psychological and sociological components can perfectly complement one another, then gender equality would be much more sustainable.”

“If men and women were able to recognise the masculine and feminine within each one of them, then the formation of their personalities, social interaction, and even rebuilding their lives under any possible circumstances would be much more harmonious,” she stressed.

“And when I say harmonious,” she added, “I am talking about equity, justice and rights.”


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